Dating Advice


Have you ever wondered how on earth you are going to find a Christian wife or husband? Well many have been there too, so we want to help out with a few simple ideas. Here we go.

This may be one of the most important decisions you have to make in your life and it may decide whether you'll have a happy marriage and will also affect your children. There are no exact dating rules for everyone as God deals with us individually and we also live in different cultures where some of the less important matters differ. But here are some guidelines:

It may help to read Genesis 24 through carefully. It deals with someone who was looking for a bride for a young man and teaches us some good principles to follow.

1. Look for a Christian wife /husband who is God fearing. Do not marry a girl/man who is not a God fearing Christian. Read Genesis 24:3-4 as well as 2 Corinthians 6:14-15.

2. Trust the Lord that He will show you in some way who the right one is (Genesis 24:7,12).

3. Look for someone who is God fearing, helpful and caring (Genesis 24:17-22).

4. Abstain from sex before marriage. See to it that you keep yourself from the kind of lifestyle that will lead to this (1 Thessalonians 4:3 - 8).

6.NCSN If you want to know where to find the right kind of partner be like a fisherman. While fishing, he goes where the fish are, the river or lake or sea. If you want to find a Christian partner, you should go to church or the groups where Christian people meet or avenues that create environments were Christian singles of like minds meet such as NCSN

If you pray that God will guide you in this and follow these guidelines in faith, you can be sure that God will lead you to the right person or at least in the right direction. Been looking of a “long time”? Be patient - sometimes it takes God years to work out in you his maturing process so you will be ready when the right person comes along. He has promised to lead us if we follow Him (Psalm 37:4 - 7). You will know, by your love and respect for that person and for the fact that he/she returns that love and respect to you, that its God’s orchestration.

It is possible that some people may find who they will marry at an early age, but others do not. It is best these days to wait until after the age of 21 for marriage, because you are more mature - 27 is not a late period as most people will consider, but it is a great age where you should have developed a good sense of self worth and know what suits you better than you did in the haste of your youth.

Meet new people.

Are you always with the same people? Yes? Then put yourself in a position to meet as many people as possible to up the chances of bumping into someone you would like. This is what NCSN (Nigerian Dating Site) strives to help you achieve.

Ask someone out!

Don’t be shy to ask him/her out. Even if you're a girl, as he may be shy!!! Go on be brave an do the asking your “MR RIGHT” or at least by entering as much details about yourself, make it easier for people to send you messages even if you haven’t got the nerve when u find someone you like. This is a lot easier for women than it is for guys so ladies be as approachable as you possibly can by telling more about yourself.

Get a Date - how to ask someone out

We say this because meeting people is often limited to your social circle and the fact that only a small percentage of the population are Christians in the first place! However you could meet someone on NCSN at any time so our advice is to be prepared for anything and keep yourself in good shape!  When you feel comfortable chatting with someone after a period of time, why not arrange to meet on a date.

During the date and always…… be yourself and be sincere

You've seen someone you like - are you going to sit and wait for them? - no - you're going to start a conversation! This is a lot easier for women than it is for men. Men love it when ladies talk to them - something to do with ego perhaps! A woman, however, often makes up her mind before you even opened your mouth. But don't panic men, just remember first impressions count a bit more and anyway, if you're sincere you'll always get another chance! Also remember.

1) Get engaged in a conversation

Forget every pick up line you know! Best thing to do is to find something interesting about him/her, and comment or ask about it. As you're doing this, observe responses - outgoing, shy, and bored? What kind of things catches his/her eye? Do you get a clue to of interests? Do this part well and you'll be sure to strike up a good conversation!

2) Original conversation . . .

During a conversation, be as original as possible. Choose something you have some knowledge of or interest in. People look for things in common and the confidence comes naturally when you know what you're talking about!

3) Be yourself

 Yes first impression counts a lot. But don't be something you're not. Impress only by being relaxed, confident and your true self. The best friendships (a bedrock of marriage) are built on honesty, your date will sooner or later get know if you're putting on a front if you are. Also don’t bluff if you don't get something they're saying - tell him/her. He/she will be happy you are trying to know more.

4) How to approach someone you don't know!

 This takes a bit of guts and using your initiative is what it’s all about. Many online dates have culminated successfully married couples have met online but unfortunately people are justifiably a little cautious these days. When you receive a message from a member, be courteous even if you're not interested.

5) Safety, Safety, Safety first and always.

 Ok! You have been chatting with him/her for a while and now feel comfortable to meet. Always arrange a mutually convenient public place and at least tell a close friend or family member about your date.

6) Be presentable - how to project confidence.

 A lesson from those in relationships!

Why do people in relationships often appear so attractive (not Physical beauty here)? A simple answer is that their relaxed manner and apparent self assuredness radiates that aura, Take on these characteristics and you'll be winner! Someone who appears desperate may be a turn off. At the same time - don't let any anxiety cause you to appear uninterested. The highest compliment you can pay someone is your undivided attention. But this may involve asking questions and yes, - listening to the answers!